I'm not a subscriber to Marie Claire mag but I have bought it sometimes; well this won't happen again.
Recently on one of their blogs, writer Maura Kelly posted an article called Should "Fatties" Get a Room? (Even on TV?)
here is the link if you haven't read it yet: http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-blog/overweight-couples-on-te...
This article as started quite a stir and its not to be less! I will start this rant now, assuming you have read Maura's disrespectful post first:
I've been overweight pretty much all my life & I have not been happy about it. My weight problem was a mix of medical -thyroid- & emotional reasons At school, college and even work I've been bullied & humiliated, just based on the fact of my weight problem. Not because I was bad or mean to others, just because I was not thin. If you really think about it, being overweight, obese, fat, chubby -however you want to call it!- its a reason to put down someone else? to make people feel depressed, miserable, to make their lives a living hell? NO! you must have must serious mental problems that mine with food to think that this conduct is acceptable.
Now, since April this year I've been in a quest to loose weight, 93 lbs to be exact. I've tried to loose weight so many times before, but this is the first time I actually have succeeded on it. It started with a bet to get me motivated since I was postponing dieting for a while. I didn't win the bet, but I gained so much more!
Even after losing 73 lbs and look a lot different now, some people still harass me, for them I'm not thin enough. They don't care that I am healthier now, they just see a body, they don't see a human being, they see me as a punching bag to express their own frustration and dissatisfaction. It doesn't bother me now as much as it did 7 months ago. Why? not because I dissociate from my old me, not because I deny being 5'2" and weight 239 lbs, size 18-20, I proudly accept it because it encourages me to keep my new lifestyle but I don't forget how I was 73 lbs ago, no mater if for some I will always be "the fat girl to make fun of" ; I'm a courageous survivor from people like Maura Kelly. The reasoning behind her hateful post it that
quote:
"Yes, anorexia is sick, but at least some slim models are simply naturally skinny. No one who is as fat as Mike and Molly can be healthy. And obesity is costing our country far more in terms of all the related health problems we are paying for, by way of our insurance, than any other health problem, even cancer."
Isn't this the lamest excuse or what? Using facts like how much $ cost US the obesity problem to promote hate is not ethical from her part.
After using probably actual real facts that might create a convincing argument -even if everyone is entitled to express it - she reveals her distorted and disrespectful opinion
quote:
"So anyway, yes, I think I'd be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other ... because I'd be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room — just like I'd find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair."
Ok, my rant can be even longer but it has to have an end right?
I felt insulted by her article. I think its a shame that Marie Claire approved it to be posted and her later apology feels insincere. It is a shame that having the opportunity to reach so many people around the world with articles not only to entertain, but to educate, to open our minds to different opinions or subject, she used it to justify a inappropriate conduct; even when is HER opinion, it does not make it less "bully style".
I've read response to her article where people wishes her to lose her job...sincerely, I don't wish that to happen. I wish that at some point, that apology she wrote later would come true in her mind & heart, that she learns to appreciate people because of their true worth. I'm optimistic that it could happen anytime soon, guess after the readers response she would realize how it feels to be bullied back.
Recently on one of their blogs, writer Maura Kelly posted an article called Should "Fatties" Get a Room? (Even on TV?)
here is the link if you haven't read it yet: http://www.marieclaire.com/sex-love/dating-blog/overweight-couples-on-te...
This article as started quite a stir and its not to be less! I will start this rant now, assuming you have read Maura's disrespectful post first:
I've been overweight pretty much all my life & I have not been happy about it. My weight problem was a mix of medical -thyroid- & emotional reasons At school, college and even work I've been bullied & humiliated, just based on the fact of my weight problem. Not because I was bad or mean to others, just because I was not thin. If you really think about it, being overweight, obese, fat, chubby -however you want to call it!- its a reason to put down someone else? to make people feel depressed, miserable, to make their lives a living hell? NO! you must have must serious mental problems that mine with food to think that this conduct is acceptable.
Now, since April this year I've been in a quest to loose weight, 93 lbs to be exact. I've tried to loose weight so many times before, but this is the first time I actually have succeeded on it. It started with a bet to get me motivated since I was postponing dieting for a while. I didn't win the bet, but I gained so much more!
Even after losing 73 lbs and look a lot different now, some people still harass me, for them I'm not thin enough. They don't care that I am healthier now, they just see a body, they don't see a human being, they see me as a punching bag to express their own frustration and dissatisfaction. It doesn't bother me now as much as it did 7 months ago. Why? not because I dissociate from my old me, not because I deny being 5'2" and weight 239 lbs, size 18-20, I proudly accept it because it encourages me to keep my new lifestyle but I don't forget how I was 73 lbs ago, no mater if for some I will always be "the fat girl to make fun of" ; I'm a courageous survivor from people like Maura Kelly. The reasoning behind her hateful post it that
quote:
"Yes, anorexia is sick, but at least some slim models are simply naturally skinny. No one who is as fat as Mike and Molly can be healthy. And obesity is costing our country far more in terms of all the related health problems we are paying for, by way of our insurance, than any other health problem, even cancer."
Isn't this the lamest excuse or what? Using facts like how much $ cost US the obesity problem to promote hate is not ethical from her part.
After using probably actual real facts that might create a convincing argument -even if everyone is entitled to express it - she reveals her distorted and disrespectful opinion
quote:
"So anyway, yes, I think I'd be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other ... because I'd be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room — just like I'd find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine addict slumping in a chair."
Ok, my rant can be even longer but it has to have an end right?
I felt insulted by her article. I think its a shame that Marie Claire approved it to be posted and her later apology feels insincere. It is a shame that having the opportunity to reach so many people around the world with articles not only to entertain, but to educate, to open our minds to different opinions or subject, she used it to justify a inappropriate conduct; even when is HER opinion, it does not make it less "bully style".
I've read response to her article where people wishes her to lose her job...sincerely, I don't wish that to happen. I wish that at some point, that apology she wrote later would come true in her mind & heart, that she learns to appreciate people because of their true worth. I'm optimistic that it could happen anytime soon, guess after the readers response she would realize how it feels to be bullied back.
2 comments:
very glad you did this post - i hadn't seen the article...
I tihnk you summed my thoughts up pretty well x
Oh my! I totally agree with you. Estan locos
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